We started our son on a small amount of Ritalin before and after the Concerta as the doctor recommended, and I may have seen a little improvement in the first day or two. But then he asked me, even though I’d explained before, why he needed to take more medicine. I told him again, that we’d seen he was getting to be so sad before and after the medication recently, and perhaps we could make the transition a little easier for his body with a smaller dosage here and there. He thought about it and said, “I’m not sad.” We talked about it a bit more and I decided that he is really in tune with his body and the way he feels, and ended up giving him a choice, whether to make this attempt to avoid the sad emotions more, or to stay with the situation he’d had for the last couple of months. He said he wanted to stick with the previous plan, and we agreed that we’d keep an eye on it and discuss it if either of us feel he needed a change.
I fully expected to see more sadness, more crying, and to have to show him in the moment why it would be best to extend the medication hours, but that’s not what happened. Things went back to the way they were, and he was fine (read: standard ADHD behavior without the super-high emotions) before and after the Concerta effective time.
I gave it some thought and realized that I keep looking at him through this ADHD lens, and didn’t notice that other stresses were at work on him. We’d been having discussions of home and school moves that I’m sure have been weighing heavily on him. SuperE helped me look at things differently, and not just assume that medication dosage was the problem. I really need to stay in tune with all of those factors as we go through this journey. Of course, I know that the medication has to be tweaked as his body changes, but perhaps a bit more of a broad view of things should be taken.
Another day, another lesson.
Thank you, SuperE – I will continue to work hard to give you the best upbringing that I can.